Of Instant Coffee and Sex

Fast foods, slide into her DM, coffee shops…all these things have one thing in common, instant results. You don’t even have to leave your house to get laid; chances are there are a couple of girls who have slid in your DM, or whom you have slid in theirs. Of course, you don’t get successful every time you slide into her DM, but if getting laid is the main agenda, which normally is, then you are assured of one or two interactions paying off.

And what happens when she says she has just dialed Uber and will be at your place in a few minutes? You dial a pizza, and if your condom stock is out, you dial one too. Now you have a girl -which translates into sex, you have food, I almost forgot booze, but that one can be dialed too, and finally, Netflix is there for your ‘fore-play’.

When you are used to instant everything, patience is no longer a virtue but a nuisance. Precisely, it is a waste of time. This is why we get mad when things do not go our way or do not work out as fast as sliding into her DM does. When something we want demands that we wait, we get mad, we get frustrated, we curse around and point out how the world is being unfair to us, and most of all, we turn into memes for comfort, which we share with our friends on social media, who are very likely to be going through the same escapades.

It’s 2016, welcome to the instant generation that has a lot of haters to deal with, and think that their self-proclaimed psychological disorders (which are supported by blogs like these one) puts them across as the most disadvantaged generation of all time. Most of us are not dealing with hunger or world wars, but Brad Pitt’s divorce is a big issue that affects our relationship’s goals. We don’t change when corrected, after all, there are so many blog posts that justify our being. Least I forget, happiness is all that we want, and thus recreational drugs are our best friends.

What happens when that song you were working on does not become an inatant hit? Or that promotion that you were expecting does not come by. We throw our hands in the air. We regress into our cocoons of self pity and frustrations. Instant things are dangerous; since time memorial, man has always wanted things to happen right away, but the men who invented fire had to go through thousands of years, of marveling at this ‘god’, before they could master it. But that doesn’t matter to us, after all, we have lighters and what was done in the stone age is none of our business. Most of us know Thomas Edison, we love his bulbs, but not the process that gave birth to them.

The result is a generation that wants success but not to labor for it. We want to supply one government tender and become instant millionaires. We want to invent the next Facebook or Mpesa like applications, thus earning us instant results. But it is not always the case, in fact it has never been the case. Mark Zuckerberg has been coding since he was 6 years old. Facebook was the result of almost 18 years of waking up and perfecting his art. Jay Z had been rapping for years prior to getting into the mainstream industry. Ask anyone who is successful, their success is not an example of the instant coffee you get at Java, and neither did they dial for it. It takes time for this thing that we all wish for to come by.

Sure, it is easier to get laid in our time, than it was in the past, but that’s as far as it goes. Instant stuff are not long term which is why once you have been laid, you both take an instant shower as she or you wait for your Uber to take you home. If you want something long term, rarely does it work like that. You have to invest your time, your energy and resources. You have to get your ass off your house and go mingle with opportunities out there. Most of all, you must cultivate the long term investor’s mentality.

Finally, we are all learning; they say that learning is a process of unbecoming. We have to let go of our bad habits and embrace new ones that will propel us to the next level. So good luck friend, don’t justify your weaknesses, work on them.